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… salve to put on your eyes, so you can see.
Rev. 3:18
Children often giggle when hearing of Jesus spitting onto the ground, making mud with the saliva, then wiping it onto a blind man’s eyes. They love hearing the man went and washed, and came home seeing (John 9:6-7)!
The bible offers another reference to seeing. To the Church in Laodicea, God said, seek “salve to put on your eyes, so you can see” (Rev. 3:18).
Many in a relationship with a narcissist experience a specific moment when they see clearly behind the narcissist’s mask. When they do, the charade they have endured ends. I, too, had that moment when I could no longer rationalize the narcissist’s words and actions.
I wish seeing clearly could have transpired as simply as washing off mud or putting on salve. For me, it occurred in small steps of increasing awareness of devaluing remarks, absurdity of their observations, discarding behaviors, and consistent distortions of truth.
Noticing the patterns was my washing off the mud and the sight-giving salve. Sight came. It will come for you, too. You need only ask.
Father, You are the healer of my eyes as well as my heart. Thank You for readying my heart for willingness to see. Thank You for holding my soul once I did see the futility of the narcissistic relationship. Continue to guide me on the path ahead with the gentleness I have come to know and trust. I love you. In Your Son’s name I pray, amen.
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