Alice N

After setting new boundaries with my narcissistic ex., instead of feeling emotionally safe and confident in my newly-achieved self-care skills, I struggled with guilt. Rather than standing taller, I felt cruel. I was able to begin unraveling my internal confusion only after  I identified this emotional conflict as a “moral injury*”.

I have learned that healing from narcissistic abuse requires seeing clearly rather than applying religious concepts to deny increasingly painful realities. Truthfully acknowledging each new reality allows me to experience the comforting and compassionate presence of the Lord Jesus Christ, even amid the pain.

Why did I tolerate these God-dishonoring behaviors? Was I honoring the relationship above honoring God? Why did I compromise my values and silence my opinions? Turning over the housekeeping of my mind to God’s Holy Spirit to guide the process of decoding my experiences and clarifying truth requires courage.