The Essence of Trust

…He remains faithful forever.

Psalm 146:6b

Growing up in a town where neighborhood kids rode bicycles until after dark and residents greeted others with “How are ya’?” nurtured my trusting heart. My English teacher served as our church pianist, keys remained in the car’s ignition, and doors were only locked during vacations.

Even though my father, a war veteran, complained about my naivety, I continued believing that everyone had enough good in them to be considered trustworthy. Because of that belief, I naively placed my trust in an untrustworthy narcissist. Seeking and failing to receive love, emotional support, and commitment from my narcissistic spouse shattered my false assumption.

Trusting that people are innately good is not only immature but unbiblical. When a man addressed Jesus as “Good Teacher,” Jesus responded, “No one is good except God alone” (Mark 10:18). David said, “Surely I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me” (Psalm 51:5).

I now engage with others with more clarity and with more wisdom. Allowing time for trust to be earned provides the buffer my heart needs and the framework for healthy relationships.

Isaiah’s words remind me, though, that God has been and will always be trustworthy.  “Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord, the Lord himself, is the Rock eternal” (Isaiah 26:4). Confidence to fully trust God, as the one true, good, and trustworthy relationship, undergirds my heart as I face each day with new relationship skills and with renewed strength.

Father, Your Word, profoundly deep as well as ultimately practical, directs my steps. Thank You for Your Holy Spirit’s presence, and for helping me to both understand and to implement what I learn. Watch over me as I practice bringing discernment to all my relationships, both with friends and with family. May You be glorified in each one. In the name of Your Son, the Good Teacher, I pray, amen.

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