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Rescued by Joy



Healing from narcissistic abuse initially feels like hauling off boulders of emotional pain and heaving stones of despair over the fence. For believers, this focused work fits under the broader umbrella of becoming more like Christ, i.e. sanctification.

The fruit of the Spirit is…joy….

 

I prefer to view life from a glass half-full perspective. However, after years of living with a narcissist, I realized I was seeing the glass as half-empty.  My optimism faded, drained by long-term stress from my inability to please my narcissistic spouse. I ached for joy to rescue me, but, instead, I entered a season of deep grief. During that period of grieving, I was surprised to discover brief moments of joy breaking through in unexpected ways.   


Paul writes in Galatians that joy is a fruit of the Spirit. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23b). Because the Holy Spirit lives within me, He actively births the joy I desperately seek when circumstances are less than joyful.


However, these flickers of joy differ from happiness. I found I must slow my pace for moments of delight to interrupt grief—such as the marvel of a spiderweb suspending a leaf for its dance with the gentle breeze. A friend’s voice, the laughter of a child, or a radiant sunset soften my grief and energize the work of healing.


Father, thank You for providing the gift of joy. I marvel that grief and joy can coexist. I love to imagine the sound of Your Son’s laughter while playing with His younger brothers and sisters. I look forward to laughing with both of You one day in the new heaven and new earth where joy will be ever present. I look forward to the future moments when You continue to encourage me with the joy of life in You. In the name of Your Son, Jesus, I pray, amen. 


 

 

 
 
 

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